If Only....

Why is it that many people start appreciating things only after losing them in their lives? The existence of someone is finally acknowledged once that person is no longer with us....or once that person has drifted away from us. As this happens, one eventually starts reminiscing or recollecting sweet and nostalgic moments spent together with the person involved. On the other hand, one fails to realize the worth of a person, who appears transparent throughout all those times or moments they had been with him/her.

WHY?! Izzit due to negligence....plain ignorance or complacency? We often take for-granted many things in life. What's the point of crying over split milk? You should have noticed your mistakes before hand; its not as though you din know..but you chose not to change and be like that. There are also people who push the blame towards fate once everything is gone, appearing helpless. 'Yes its easy to blame everything on the west, when in fact all focus should be on ourselves!'- Do you see yourself here?

If yes, have you decided to do something about it?

Various reasons account for why people drift away from us; which comprise of our character, the way we handle situations, our reactions towards certain events or others' emotions, & as a whole, the kinda personality we portray in front of people....the image they have in mind wheneva our name pops out. However, sometimes the quote 'certain things are better left unsaid' and 'ignorance is bliss' play a part as well....which is why some people regard keeping a distance somewhat of a positive & a good thing to start off with.


To me, what I feel is that, life is certainly short to be spending time holding grudges against one another. Let bygones be bygones; and to those who made your life miserable...look at them in the eye with a smile and arms wide open, welcoming them into your world of forgiveness wholeheartedly. If you forgive, you'd eventually forget & I MEAN IT, because those people who say 'I forgive but I dun forget' are full of CRAP! You are unable to forget since you're still harping on that issue in some corner of your heart, which you do not want to admit, however on the pretext of having a big heart in front of others, you say you have forgiven, when in fact you've not! Wads all this pretense for? For whom? Dun you realize you're lying to yourself..?

For once, cut all the pretense and start living in reality. Be practical & face the truth right there as it is! How long more are you gonna be childish? How long more do you wanna live with regret..that you want things in life to change? They'll never change unless you implement change into your life. Let it happen instead of brooding over it for ages. Most importantly, be bold enough to admit your own mistakes. Apologize whenever or wherever necessary. It doesn't hurt to say sorry. You won't appear small; neither would your reputation be tarnished. Unleash that ego of yours that's becoming a hurdle towards things that you ought to be doing. Trust me, you'll see a difference in what life has to offer you! Again, life is short. Its up to you to make it colorful.

Go up to those whom you cherish & treasure...and tell them how much they mean to you. Be it emails, hand-written letters, cards, smses...whatever medium you make use of...just let them know you how much you care for them indeed. And I'm sure no matter what kinda day they've gone through, especially if its rough, it will spread a smile across their faces, without doubt. Embrace close ones NOW...for you'll never know when its time for you to let go of them forever...you might not get a chance to even express your love to them when you needed to the most; even if they are small little gestures, it'll make their day. In fact, these small gestures of love are the ones that bring life to many things out there in this so-called monotonous lives that most of us are leading...where we could not find the time to spend with the ones we love. Do not say "If time permits...". It's the little things you do for others whenever time doesn't permit, that makes you special in their hearts.


Treasure things. Treasure people. Nothing in life is permanent.


I hope people learn to appreciate others despite indifference before its too late. If whatever I wrote so far did created an impact on you, I'd be more than happy to be part of the change you'd wanna see in you. :)